I'm just sayin'

Keeping the Peace

on June 10, 2012

Remember that old adage regarding keeping peace; ‘don’t discuss, politics or religion’? Well, I’m going to add one more topic. I know there has to be more than two topics to stay away from if you want to keep peace with the person you are having a discussion with. I’m sure on more than one occasion the word discussion is used as a polite euphemism for arguing. Even that is up for discussion as to when the discussion tip-toes over to the arguing side. Hummm!  So now I’m wondering, if two people, let’s say one’s a man and one’s a woman and they’re out to lunch and in between looking at the menu, they hit a bump in the conversation, they move along to another topic. She brings up the subject of the advantages and disadvantages of, let’s say, uh, being married or getting married for that matter. They hit on a couple of mutual notes about the marriage scene but then they differ on a component, like, say, monogamy. She’s for it. He is not, surprised?  Undoubtedly, she tries to convince him that it is the right thing to do. It’s what marriage is about. He says he doesn’t think one has to be monogamous to have a meaningful marriage. So, is this still a discussion or is it an argument? Well, I looked it up in the ole Webster and it says a discussion is a. “Consideration of a question in open and usually informal debate.  b. “A formal treatment of a topic in speech or writing.”  Argument: a : a reason given in proof or rebuttal, b : discourse intended to persuade. Okay, so there, persuade, I think that is an operative word.  Because I think when two people are discussing a topic in which they have differing views, one might be open to hear how the other person came to their choice. But when that person begins to attempt persuasion, stating how the other person’s view is wrong and how their own view is better, I suppose that would be a good opening for an argument. When really, the only thing one of them wanted was to eat their lunch and have a conversation that’s it. But noooo, it turned into a discussion and then turned into argument. Now nobody is talking and there is no discussing, no arguing, no rebuttal, no persuading. Just silence. Golden silence. Maybe the answer in all that discussing is marriage really is not for the two of you, or maybe it’s just a topic to stay away from. Like the other topic I want to add to the DO NOT DISCUSS list, which possibly could come up when trying to order a meal in a restaurant with a friend; vegan vs carnivore.

Newly acquired veganism/vegetarianism for some becomes like a religion or recovery from drugs and/or alcohol or having an epiphany about, well, anything, whatever it is, it will be shared. Believe me. The newbie wants to share all their knowledge of what you are doing to your body, the earth and well, some believe, your soul is damned if you choose to slap a piece of cow on your plate; preferably with grill marks. However, there’s another old saying, “Survival of the fittest.” If a cow could outrun us they wouldn’t end up on your In-Out-Burger. I’ve never seen cheetah burgers on a menu! I’m just sayin’.


8 responses to “Keeping the Peace

  1. Eric Lyon says:

    Great post, I won’t get into a discussion with you about it…;)

  2. Rose Rodriguez says:

    Yeah, most discussions do turn into arguments. After discussing marriage, maybe the argument to follow will put a damper on their plans, making one less miserable couple to file for divorce in the future.

  3. Mark Looker says:

    I’m glad you stared your blog–you have plenty to share that can be “discussed!”

  4. Anna says:

    I’ve always wondered about the difference between a discussion, argument, rebuttle, persuasion, etc were?
    Anna Lou

  5. VirgoVoice says:

    Well, I hope I’ve cleared things up for you, Anna! 🙂

  6. Anna Olso says:

    Thank you for defining those for me!! 🙂 Have a great day. God bless you and U. John!

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